spectrum of kink

I recently logged back into fetlife.com for the first time in years and took the fetish quiz. With hundreds of choices, these were my 82 preferences…

Of all the flavors in the spectrum, I remain ‘cosmic vanilla with a splash of kink.’

I am a tantrika. My interest are based in the areas of sensual romance, mutual pleasure, tantric ritual, touch, massage, breath, sensation play, deep passion, ecstasy, and spontaneous adventure.

When I look at this list, I see infinite flavors of the rainbow and possibilities that would take lifetimes to explore. 🍦

One thing remains clear…

I do not enjoy being dominated. I’m a pleaser and I love to give. However, I am not a submissive.

I take kind requests, but I do not enjoy being spoken down to or told what to do. Though I’m adventurous, being choked, anal, and the like… is not my cup of tea.

If this is your preference, you are seeking a Submissive.

This is a topic I feel strongly about discussing more in-depth in future blogs.

Though modern porn may depict this genre of scenes as commonplace now, BDSM requires communication and consent. It is not to be expected as the norm. If this is your genre, search only for women who state they are submissive.

If you also connect to these preferences, let’s talk about it. ❤️